Hello ladies and gents.
This week’s post is shorter than usual. I hope you don’t mind.
Last week, I wrote about the importance of letting go of old baggage. If you need a refresher, you can access the article here in Letting go of OLD baggage. Holding on to the past in a way that determines your present thoughts, attitudes, behavior, and actions can seriously impact your ability to take advantage of future endeavors and relationships. So, we’ve already established this as something you have to do to score the best future possible.
The next part is where the real work is. You probably left last week’s post wondering how to take on such a huge task. Let’s face it. Change is difficult. Our habits are on autopilot. Undoing them and developing new ones is a challenge. But, it can be done. This is your ticket to your freedom.
Without further ado,
4 keys to letting go of old baggage
1. Understand that your past is in the past.
Your past is behind you. It’s unchangeable. There’s nothing you can do to alter and repair it. Stop carrying it with you as some badge of honor because it’s not. All you are doing is creating stress, wasting time and energy, and blocking new blessings from entering your life. You have to start looking at life from a new perspective. You won’t be able to move forward until you put the past in its proper place.
2. Make a decision and stand firmly on it.
Know that you have a choice in the matter. Stop feeding yourself the lie that “you can’t help yourself.” You can, but it starts with a decision. Follow that decision with discipline. You will have to monitor your thoughts and put your emotions in check. You will have to remind yourself of your commitment to view life from a new perspective. Find a scripture like Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (King James Version)” to meditate on and help you go the distance.
3. Forgive yourself.
This one is major. Believe me, I know. This has been the most challenging part of my journey. However, I learned that it was impossible for me to heal from my past and move forward without forgiving myself.
The same goes for you too. This is a necessary part of continuing your journey. It doesn’t matter who is to blame. It doesn’t matter whether an apology was issued -even if the one who needed to apologize was YOU. People are human. We are human. We make mistakes. We mess up. Sometimes it’s unintentional. And other times, not so much. We all have made decisions that we knew weren’t the best and moved forward anyway. Cut yourself some slack. Allow yourself to be human. We learn more lessons from our mistakes than we do from our successes, even if the lesson is “what not to do”.
4. Focus on the present and build an awesome future.
Healing from your past is really about your present and future. Your goal is to develop new habits that will serve you well as you continue your journey. You must stop draining yourself by operating in your present based on what happened in the past. You deserve to smile again, laugh again, and love again. Ask yourself “How do I want my present to look?” Write it down. Create some short term goals to get you there and then “Rock it.” Post it in a spot that you see every day as a reminder of your new focus.
I would be lying to you if I said this was going to be easy. It wasn’t for me and it probably won’t be for you either. But, that’s okay. Old baggage is your enemy. You may think it’s protecting you. But, it’s not. It is an enemy that must be defeated. It’s stopping you from making progress in your life. It’s not going to go away on its own. You are going to have to force it out of your life. So, don’t get discouraged. Don’t lose heart. You can do this.
See ya next week,