Hello ladies and gents!!!
Do you daydream? Or sit around thinking what life would be like if…
- You started that business
- Relocated to that place where you always wanted to live
- Went back to school
- Auditioned for that “thing” because you know you got skills
- You were debt free and could give more to those in need
I’m a daydreamer big time. Here’s my current one:
Me and the hubs are sitting in the backyard watching our kids run around. They are so free and look so happy. They have the space to be boys. We’re sipping lemonade and thinking how great it is to have a back yard.
Then, my mind cuts to the following:
We get to pull in our garage instead of competing for close parking spaces with the neighbors and their guests.
We have a laundry room with a washer and dryer that doesn’t require $3.25 for every load. Or that stupid laundry card that I occasionally misplace. And I don’t have to wait for others in order to wash my family’s clothing.
We can do T25 without disturbing anyone!!!
I can put my creative stamp down.
No more apartment living (even if it is spacious, it is still an apartment)…
We have a home.
There’s nothing wrong with daydreaming. It provides a temporary escape from the current reality. It’s where you go to envision the life you wish you had.
Here’s the problem:
What do you do with your daydreams?
Do they forever hang out in your head?
Do you write about them?
Do you attach goals to them?
See, when the hubs and I were first married, we got our apartment and that’s where we stopped. We were so glad to be together under the same roof that we never set an expiration date for apartment living. It was a big apartment and we had a lot of space, so we were good.
7 months later we discovered were expecting. We knew we didn’t want to raise a child in our apartment, so in a panic we started looking for a house.
We were missing some critical components to purchasing a home, but our realtor paid no attention. She moved forward with the house hunt. We saw alot of homes, but we couldn’t find THAT one. The one meant for us. During my 5th month of pregnancy we had to suspend our house hunting due to bedrest. But, I really believe that it would have stopped anyway because we didn’t have our finances in order.
So, we then decided it was okay to continue apartment living and start building our savings up more. New problem: Baby’s born and baby’s daycare eat up savings plan.
That baby will be 8 in September and now he has 2 little brothers. Guess what? We still live in an apartment. Albeit it’s spacious, but it’s not a house. And No, we have no desire to rent a house either.
A lot has happened to us financially during those years from layoffs to pay freezes and pay cuts. However, I think the biggest reason for our failure to reach this goal is because of Habakkuk 2:2.
Habakkuk 2:2: “And the Lord answered me, and said, “Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.”
We had a vision for our lives. We created a vision board (wall and bathroom mirror) to remind us of our goals (short and long term).
We look at our boards all of the time. We talk about it. We even crossed off one item 2 years ago (Yay!). This is not everything we hope to accomplish in life, but it does include most of the things that are close to our hearts like owning a home, becoming debt free (Don’t you just love student loans!), giving more to our church, and increasing our other charitable donations (We want to purchase water wells in countries lacking clean water).
As you can see, we also have a lot of scriptures posted too. We want to grow closer to God and see things the way he does. We want to increase in our love and giving toward others (yada yada yada…). We want to be better people and correctly represent him.
We never created a plan to accomplish any of the goals on that board, which is strange considering that I plan everything else in our lives. I don’t know what happened. Maybe we thought they were supposed to fall out the sky or something. Maybe we were afraid of the sacrifices required. I really don’t know how we missed such an important piece. Or maybe it was just dumb thinking at its finest. Whatever.
Habakkuk 2:2 says to Write the VISION, and MAKE it PLAIN, so that HE may RUN.
The purpose of writing the vision is so that you can develop a road map for bringing it to pass. What good is it to have a vision and never see it happen?
I love our boards and would like to add to them, but that’s just the first step. There has to be an action plan attached to each vision.
For the first time, I can honestly say that we are working on an action plan for the goals on our board. I will keep you updated on our progress.
What is the plan?
1.Be Realistic and Patient. Everything can’t be accomplished all at once. Some goals will require more time than others. That’s ok.
2. Choose 1-2 goals at a time. We are starting with short-term goals first. We need a house for our boys and eventually I am going to need another vehicle (My current one is approaching 12 years of age and we are doing everything to keep her running). I don’t want to finance my vehicle. I hate car notes.
3. Take each goal individually and determine what steps need to occur in order to reach each goal. We need to build savings. I am teaching summer school this year while my hubs is finishing his last class (He walked in April). This is my first year teaching summer school as a choice instead of out of necessity. Our middle child has finished Pre-K and will be joining his brother in elementary school. No more Daycare for at least another year. We have a few other things in the works too. So, we have put together a financial plan that will seriously grow our savings.
4. Create deadlines. Shorter deadline periods are being added in between to make sure we stay on track to reaching the larger goals. For us, this will be based on pay periods. We have a set amount that will be deducted from one account and placed in another.
5. Write/Type the action plan and post it in a spot that you will see EVERYDAY. The plan has to remain visible to stay relevant. I plan on making multiple copies of the plan for different areas of our residence.
6. Work the action plan for each goal. Make tweaks along the way. Cross out each step of accomplishment. Doing this will provide the momentum and excitement to keep going. The hubs and I believe in accountability partners, so we will be accountable to each other. You may also want to have an accountability partner.
**Repeat steps 2-6 until you accomplish all of your goals.**
What is your vision for your life? Write it down, create a realistic plan, and work the plan.
Peace and Blessings,