When I first met my honey, I had BAGGAGE. It’s the truth. I’m not ashamed to admit it. I was severely burned by past relationships and had lost all trust in men.
I liked my honey though. I mean I really liked him. There was something different about him that made me think he was unlike other men. We were just friends though. I saw stars whenever he came around. He was the only guy I would have considered having a relationship with…If he wanted one.
When I discovered he liked me just as much as I liked him, I brought some issues into our dating world. Even though I thought the sun, moon, and stars shined out of his butt, I over analyzed everything he said. He would say something and I would interpret it to mean something totally different.
See, I was used to being in relationships with liars and so I learned to be suspicious. This guy was awesome. He was everything I ever wanted in a guy, but I struggled to shake the suspicious mode I was used to operating in.
The problem was I was trying to take old baggage on a new flight. I was accustomed to being on the wrong plane going to the wrong destination. I carried those painful souvenirs every where I traveled.
Thankfully, my guy understood my past (we were friends first, so he knew everything) and was willing to work with me. He consistently showed me he was trustworthy.
Thank God, I eventually dumped those old bags.
In hindsight though, those bags could have caused me to be removed from a flight headed to my dream destination. My bags were full of hazardous and restricted materials-hurt, mistrust, anger, etc. He could’ve said “thank you, but no thanks.”
He had every reason and right to run in the opposite direction.
The Takeaway: Experience does leave us with lessons that we can use to change or improve our future, but there has to be balance. We can’t allow negative emotions to distort our perceptions in new situations.We owe it to ourselves to view each new journey with a fresh set of eyes. Click To Tweet To fully immerse ourselves in the new we must let go of the old. Click To Tweet
It wasn’t possible for my heart to hold love, fear, and bitterness at the same time. Even Matthew 6:24 says that we can’t serve two masters without hating one of them. Serving 2 masters presents a conflict of interest.
I couldn’t truly love him for the awesome man he was and still is and maintain my suspicions that he was dishonest and possibly playing games with my heart. It was only when I let go and focused on just us that we moved forward in our love.
Outside of our children, fully committing to the Rufus and Tasha team was the best decision I ever made. I’m glad I let go. He was not them. He was always just being himself. And I will always love him because of it.
Stop serving two masters. It’s time to let go. Dump your old bags. Your new flight is waiting.
See ya next week,
What old baggage do you need to get rid of to move forward in your journey?